Victoria Beckham is one of the many women who inspires me. Along with Beyonce, My mum and Lena Dunham.
Victoria Beckham has been in the public eye since her early twenties. A time in most women’s lives where you’re trying to figure life out, let alone having that added pressure from millions of people and seeing yourself sprawled across the magazines in the most unflattering pose. Yes, it was her choice to become famous, but it wasn’t her choice to be criticized left right and center.
We’ve seen many celebrities crack under the pressures of being in the spot light 24/7 but Victoria wasn’t one of them. She’s gone from being ‘posh spice’ to one of the most well known WAG’s, to designing her own fashion line. She’s been shamed for being too skinny, never smiling and always wearing heals, the most peculiar things to be shamed for if you ask me. Despite all of this negative media attention, she never seems to speak ill of others and always stay’s stylish.
In this months Vogue, Victoria published her inspirational letter to her younger self revealing some personal thoughts about her life.
“I know you’re struggling right now. You’re not the prettiest, or thinnest or the best at dancing”
Lesson one: Know that everyone struggles with life at some point. You will overcome it. “IT”, whatever that may be, that period in your life will pass by and become a distant memory. Just remember to keep going.
“You will turn up at awards ceremonies resembling a drag queen. But I look back at you and smile. It will add interest to your life to go from one extreme to another. I love the fact that you will feel free to express yourself”
Lesson two: Always be yourself, which ever part of yourself you may be at that time, live it and enjoy it. Even if later on you think “I looked ridiculous” or “what was I thinking going back with him” at least you know you were having fun and at the time you were being true to yourself.
“Learn more about football, especially the offside rule”
Lesson three: Learn more about what your spouse loves to do. Be that, playing football, painting, singing or writing. Whatever it is learn about it. If you’re like me and have a football playing boyfriend (who often compares himself to professional footballers after a big win), then you’ll understand how football plays a big part in your relationship and how difficult it can be to wrap your head around something you have no real interest in at all. BUT that is not the point. Your partner is. So ask questions, go to their football games, even buy a ‘football for dummies’ book if you have to.
“What you will realize is that by working hard, yet always putting family first, it will be possible to achieve that balance”
Lesson four: Find a balance. No one is perfect, juggling family, friends and work can be tough but don’t feel like you have to completely give up one thing to have another. If you have a job that you are passionate about, don’t feel like you should sacrifice that to be with your family 24/7. Everyone needs time to be themselves.
After reading this article in Vogue magazine this month I’ve been inspired to write a letter to my younger self. Only 22, but hey, I must of learnt something.
Let me know what your take on Victoria Beckham’s letter is.
Ta-ra for now