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How to set New Year Goals without the pressure

So, the year has come to an end and a new one is starting. New goals to achieve, new adventure to enjoy as well as all the rest.

I remember when I was a late teenager, entering my early 20’s, the quote ‘new year, new me’ was everywhere. I never understood it. Although I’ve always been a goal setter, the idea of throwing away “past you” seems as if what you have all ready achieved doesn’t matter anymore. 

I’m a reflector. I strive to live in the present but reflecting helps you grow. 

The whole of December I’ve been reflecting on the year, thinking about the one ahead and what I’d like to achieve. At the beginning of 2018, I set goals for myself. In total, I set 9 goals and I achieved 4/5 of them…

My goals for 2018 were:

  • Get closer to becoming debt free, there was no number attached I just wanted to see a big decline in our debt. 
  • Do more swimming, if your count swimming with your baby then I actually did A LOT of this, Arthur and I went every week from when he was 8 weeks old.
  • Get my pre-baby body back. For me it wasn’t about the weight it was just about feeling comfortable in my skin.
  • Re-start blogging and be consistent. I am SO pleased I achieved this one, blogging this year has been everything for me. As well as coming to the realization that this is what I want to do as a career. 
  • Reach 900 Instagram followers. This sounds superficial, however, in the blogosphere followers are important. Numbers do matter, to a point. Above all else, is the connection you have with your followers, the engagement. 
  • Have more girl time. This is one I’m pretty embarrassed to say I didn’t achieve. I should make more time for my friends. However, I have come to realize it is more about quality time than quantity. 
  • Re-start live morning motivation videos. In 2017 I started a series on Facebook where every two days I did a “Morning Motivation” I really wanted to start this up again but fear got in the way… 
  • Feel happier within me and try and learn to control my anxiety. So this year has been an odd one… I can say I have put in A LOT of work into myself. August 2018 I started therapy. Every week. It’s intense but I am SO proud of myself for doing it. 

So out of all my 9 goals I’m really chuffed with the ones I’ve achieved. 

That feeling I get when I achieve one of my goals is one of my favorites. I read a post by Rebecca Faye recently about why she is only giving herself one goal in 2019. That goal was “to be happy”.  The post rang so true with me and inspired me to turn on my laptop and write my first post in weeks. I wanted to only have a couple of days off the blogging world over the Christmas period but it just didn’t work like that. Mentally and physically I needed more, and that’s ok.

Take away the pressure. 

Goals for me, have been a way to stay motivated. In those darker days, they’re a way to remind myself what I have achieved and what I’m yet to accomplish. 

For some, goals, especailly ‘New Year’ goals, can be really pressurinsing.  I used to feel this way. If anyone is your girl to understand putting too much pressure on yourself, it’s me. 

Many friends, family, and my therapist constantly remind me not to put so much pressure on myself… It’s like it’s in my DNA. 

SO, how do you take away the pressure from your goals?

Write them down then put them away. Re-read them when you feel un-motivated and remind yourself what you are capable of achieving. 

If you get halfway through the year and you haven’t achieved what you thought you would, don’t stress it. Just keep going. Give yourself grace, life happens and stuff gets in the way.

My goals for 2019 

  • Make an income from blogging
  • Be kinder, Volunteer, leave kind messages, do more random acts of kindness.
  • Write a letter to Arthur for his 1st Birthday 
  • Clear off one credit card
  • Spend more time outside
  • Becoming more confident in myself and continue to grow
  • Collaborate with more Bloggers
  • Start doing Pilates 
  • Continue to become more environmentally friendly
  • Be present in the moment more

These are just a few of the goals I’ve set myself this year. I’ve actually categorized them and added a few more to each category. Totally geeky, right? However, this is just one of the ways that I’m able to stay focused without putting loads of pressure on myself to achieve every single goal. 

Celebrate the journey

Instead of just celebrating your achivements celebrate the journey. Don’t wait to tick off one of your goals to give yourself credit. Enjoy the journey that allowed you to reach that goal. 

Tough session at the gym? Remeber that’s all part of getting a stronger body. Enjoy it. Give yourself credit. 

After all, its the bricks you place infront of you that create your path.

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4 Comments

  1. Becca January 2, 2019 / 7:28 pm

    Aaaah I loved reading this post, Holly! It sounds like you had a really good go at your 2018 goals and I love all of the ones you’ve set for this year! I can’t wait to see how your blog grows and I love that one of your goals is just to be kinder. I think we all need to have a go at that one this year, it’s such a nice idea!

    Becca X

  2. Weird&Liberated January 3, 2019 / 7:27 am

    I loved this post and those are some great goals. I too want to be present in the moment. I feel like these days we spend too much time taking pictures of things and events for social media instead of truly taking in every moment and enjoying it to the fullest.

  3. Rebecca January 6, 2019 / 5:10 pm

    Loved this post Holly. I love your goals, I feel they are very similar to mine in a way as they all come down to being happy. I also want to volunteer my time and help others out. And lets meet this year too! xx

    Bex xx

  4. Tanita January 12, 2019 / 10:00 pm

    These are such great goals Holly, and well done for achieving some of the ones you set last year. I love setting goals throughout the yea because it keeps me focused on what is truly important to me and the things I want to achieve. Here is to an amazing 2019 xxx

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