I’ve always considered myself so lucky. Since the age of about 18/19 I’ve felt happy in my own skin. Confident and comfortable. Those moments/days where I didn’t I would make sure I ate something healthy, make a plan to exercise and eat better that week or next couple of days. I was proud of what my body could achieve. How far I could push it in the gym.
If I didn’t like something about my body I would find a way to love it. Accept it. Work on it.
I even wrote a post about how to improve your self confidence, if you fancy a read click >here<.
I learnt to love my body through all it little imperfections.
However since I’ve been pregnant, where most women thrive, feel like their body are doing an incredible thing, love their baby bump body, it’s taken me a long time to come round to it. Learn to love my body again.
Now, finally I can truly say I love my body. In all its pregnancy glory.
How did I get to this point?
I kept exercising.
I know a lot of people might think I’m mad. They’ve asked me why? They’ve suggested I stop. In all honesty I can’t imagine my life without consistent exercise. It not only makes me feel confident with my body and physical appearance but it also clears my head. Calms me. Helps me feel like I’ve accomplished something.
I’ve always grown up with exercising being so important within my life and I truly believe that it’s helped me learn to love my body. Especially during my pregnancy.
I’ll admit I’ve had to change my workouts and how often I go to the gym. But I always walk where I can, take the stares at work and do small 20 min at home workouts when I feel I need to.
I’ve listened to my body and rested when it’s told me to. Ive had lots of help coming up with good workouts for my pregnancy from my mum and a fantastic instagram/blogger mum (amy). This has honestly made it so much easier to work out and make my body strong.
I practiced love affirmations.
Some of you may be wondering, what are love affirmations? Affirmations are words or phrases you say to yourself to affirm something in your mind. Love affirmations are basically just making sure the affirmations you are affirming are ones of love. Every time I looked at my body in the mirror I picked the places I didn’t like about my body and I’d tell myself what was amazing about it. For example “my legs are strong. They carry my body everyday and carry my baby”.
Some of you may think this is a load of rubbish but some of us need that extra support.
I stopped comparing myself.
At the beginning of my pregnancy I compared my body to every single other pregnant woman. That is no lie, EVERY pregnant woman I saw I would say how beautiful she was and how I wasn’t. How I looked too big, or my bump was too small, or too high.
The most ridiculous things.
Then one day I just stopped. The affirmations kicked in, I saw every woman as an individual, different and unique. No one body is the same so why would their pregnant version be? Why would my body be the same as someone else’s?
I realised how much I didn’t want to become that mum that compared her every move to someone else’s. Who questioned if she was doing the right thing, who compared her child! So I thought, if I don’t want to be that mum why am I being that woman? Start as you mean to go on.
I still have my days where I’m fed up of wearing leggings. I feel my legs rub so much that they actually feel hot (sorry for that gross image). Although now is a different story, I make sure that instead of spending 90% of my time hating on my pregnant body I spend 90% of my time loving it. Appreciating it and reminding myself what an incredible job it’s doing.
Practicing mindfulness/positive thoughts.
So this is something I’ve fallen in and out of. Not for any reason than I haven’t yet created a habit out of thinking positive thoughts.
This probably sounds crazy to a lot of you, I hope it comes naturally to most of you, but for those of you who are like you’ll know what I mean when I say I haven’t yet created a habit out of it.
It takes about 2 months, 66 days to create a new habit. That’s with doing something persistently EVERYDAY, for two months.
Seeing as I’ve not practiced this everyday for two months, it’s taken a little longer.
I’m here! I finally feel that when it comes to my body I’ve created a new habit. A habit of good, positive thoughts surrounding my image. Self absorbed? Or self love? Let’s go with self love! For my body anyway.
I written quite a few posts surround anxiety and mindfulness and what helps me. I’ll be honest it’s still something I’m learning lots about. So I’m in no way a master.
However taking those 3/5/10 mins of each day to sit, breath deeply and repeat my affirmations to myself has really worked. It’s created a new image of myself and I feel like when I look in the mirror I see beauty instead of a beast.