We all have imperfections. We all have had moments where we will sit and think less of ourselves because of them. The thing is we all have imperfections, no one was born perfect, no matter what your mum might say. But when it comes to loving ourselves some of us find this easier than others.
Learning to love your imperfections can be difficult. It takes time and hard work, mentally. It takes patience and practice.
Accepting our imperfections doesn’t just mean, “I’ll always have cellulite on my legs, so who cares”, that’s a massive start, yes, it’s our internal imperfections that are often the hardest to accept and love but the most important.
I’ve taken a little time to myself lately, just enjoying being myself and actually enjoying my own company.
There are so many little things that make up who I am. So many things that people often see as an imperfection. So many things that I began to hate about myself but felt I could never change.
After spilling coffee all down my white jeans in the middle of the high street the other week, I had a little epiphany. I thought “this stuff will always happen to me, so why stress about it?” and I laughed. I walked back into the coffee shop where I had left my keys laughing at myself covered in coffee. Instead of getting seriously pissed off and letting it ruin my day, I took a moment and just laughed. This was so typically me, trying to do so many things at once, having too much in my hands, trying to prove to myself that I CAN wear white and NOT get a stain down them. I’m clumsy. So what. It’s a part of me that I just can’t change. More to the point, I don’t want to.
I have so many imperfections. Because I’m all about self-development, I thought it would be a fun idea to write down all my imperfections and turn them into a positive quality about myself.
I’m VERY clumsy.
Translation; I’m playful. I know how to laugh at myself, as usually my clumsiness only ever effects me, (please see example above) and I don’t cry over spilled milk, figuratively and physically.
I suffer from anxiety.
Translation: Whilst learning to deal with it to help myself, I have helped others too. I believe it makes me a more empathetic person.
I have cellulite.
Translation: I enjoy life and food, because what is life without enjoying good food? I’m also a human being and unless someone follows me around with an airbrushing machine all day then babe, I’m gonna have bumpy bits.
I talk too much.
Translation: Life will never be boring. I can talk about anything and everything.
Translation: This gets to me but it’s said that hairier people are better in bed, who knows if that’s true but I’m using it as a positive for this one! Plus when I’m old and grey my hair won’t go all thin and straggly.
Translation: They say the most untidy people are the most creative and I 100% stand by this. I consider myself to be a very creative person and sometimes I need to make a mess to become organized. It makes sense to me.
I find it hard to let go.
Translation: I care. A LOT. I care about most things in my life so when things happen, mainly to do with people being disloyal or something to hurt me, I often find it hard to forget. In my opinion, it just shows how much I care.
Translation: This one took me a while to think about how I could turn this into a positive as it does frustrate me as I often just want to crack on with things but I will put them off. Usually, they are things that I’m not quite sure about, or things I really really want to be perfect. To me, this just means with some parts of my life I don’t want to rush. I’ll take my time until I know it’s perfect.
What I’m trying to say is that sometimes your imperfections are actually the best part of you. They are what makes you original. So love them and love them hard.
It’s not often I do this but I’m going to set everyone who reads this post a little task. In the comments write one thing about yourself that you see to be an imperfection and translate it into a positive quality about yourself. Spread the positivity!
Ta-ra for now