Hey, It’s Ok #Becoming mum edit

I can’t believe it’s been over a year since I’ve done a Hey, it’s ok, blog post. A lot of you have messaged me saying will you bring back these posts? The answer is YES!

 

Of course, my first Hey, it’s ok, post back had to be a mum edit, didn’t it? Right, enough rambling let’s get stuck in.

 

  1. Hey, it’s ok to ask for help.

This is one I need to learn to do more of. I often feel like a failure if I ask for help in any aspect of my life. Which is not true.

2. Hey, it’s ok to want, not just need, time away from your baby/children.

What is this? I definitely don’t feel as if I get enough alone time or just time away from Arthur. Just because you want time away from your baby doesn’t mean you love them any less. I actually believe it makes you appreciate and love them more.

3. Hey, it’s ok to kiss your baby un-controllably.

Tell me it’s not just me who does this? The love I have for Arthur is just un-controllable and I want him to know it. He has just started to do kisses more and I feel like it’s a great way to show affection. I don’t usually share parts of Jack and my relationship but we always kiss each other goodbye when he leaves for work and often greet each other this way too.

4. Hey, it’s ok to actually like the smell of your babies poo.

Ok, before you judge. Let me explain. When Arthur was first born I actually liked the smell of his poo. The first few weeks of Arthur being part of our world I felt like I was living in this haze of love mist. I felt so happy and contented and nothing could dampen that feeling, not even Arthurs explosive poo’s.

Hey, it’s ok to lose your Identity

 

I’ve spoken about losing your identity when becoming a mum in a post I did a few weeks ago about 5 ways to style T-shirts for A/W. Take a read <here> if it tickles your fancy. Losing your identity can happen to any of us at any time. However, I do feel it happens rather rapidly when having to put so much of your energy into a new tiny little person.

6. Hey, it’s ok to not miss going out drinking, clubbing, for dinner dates etc…

For me personally, I don’t actually miss going out. Don’t get me wrong a dinner date with friends or Jack maybe once a month or every now and then is needed but I defiantly don’t miss the hangovers.

7. Hey, it’s ok to take pleasure in doing your weekly food shop.

Yep. I’m that sad. Doing the weekly food shop is more exciting than doing clothes shopping for me. Now that’s saying something as I have a passion for clothes and styling them. There’s just something calming about it.

8. Hey, it’s ok to lose touch with your friends.

Friends are important, but good friends will always understand that right now your focus is your baby.

        Hey, it’s ok to put your family and babies needs first.

Sometimes we are so wrapped up in our new little family that we can almost forget the world around us. Be that your job, friendships, other family members. But y’know what. That’s ok. Your babies needs come first and you should never feel guilty for that.

 

9. Hey, it’s ok to enjoy craft and messy play more than your child.

I love messy play. Arthur and I always have some type of messy play going on but sometimes I question who enjoys it more?

10.  Hey, it’s ok to have shit parenting days.

Those day’s where you just stick the telly on and watch films or cartoons pretty much the whole day. Those days where the only things that matter are that your babies are fed, bathed and cozy.

11. Hey, it’s ok to feel like you’re bossing this parenting gig.

Some days, I feel like I’ve got this mum life down to a T. Y’know what I want to start celebrating that! Why do we always feel like we need to put ourselves down to be relatable or to be accepted?

12. Hey, it’s ok that your house doesn’t look like Mrs. Hintch’s

No matter how long I spend cleaning and tidying my house just will never look like Mrs. Hintches. I’m ok with that.

 

Hey, it’s ok to not have much time for anything other than your baby

Let’s face it. Children and babies take up A LOT of time. I want to make sure I’m giving Arthur as much as my time as possible. I enjoy playing with him, taking him to soft play, taking him to the park. Creating messy play for him. I love all that stuff. BUT by the time we’ve done a lot of our activities, do a bit of housework, cooked dinner, set him to sleep, had lunch etc… It doesn’t leave much time for anything else.

14. Hey, it’s ok to really enjoy Julia Donaldson books.

I LOVE her stories. They are such a good read and are so educational for little ones without being obvious… but I actually find them quite amusing.

15. Hey, it’s ok to feel like you have no fucking clue what you’re doing.

Some day’s I feel like me and Arthur just click. I know him inside out, backward and forwards, left and right and upside down but my god! There are day’s when I feel like I have no clue what I’m doing.

I’m glad to bring back the roots of Hey, it’s ok. Let me know what you’d like to see next from this style of post.

 

Much Love

Hx

2 Comments

  1. Samantha November 23, 2018 / 11:51 am

    Love the photos of you two, so cute together! Being a mum is challenging, isn’t it?! I remember the days when Lily demanded ALL of my attention and I sometimes felt like I was suffocating but looking back it wasn’t so bad. Comparing it to nowadays when it’s the opposite way around – I want to hang out with her and have her attention, but she’s always busy with her phone etc. It’s definitely difficult coming to terms with the loss of “neediness” from your child. (I’m surplus to requirement now)!

    Arthur is such a lovely age, hang on to every moment, they soon grow up! x

    • Holly
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      December 5, 2018 / 9:48 am

      It defiantly is challenging but very rewarding. When I finally make a break through with AJ, it just makes me feel really proud of both of us. Aha yes that is true, I sometimes feel thats the world we live in now, we always want what we can’t have. Living in the present is something I am very much working towards as I feel it’s so important.

      I’m glad you enjoyed the post

      Much love
      H x

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